How To Fengshui Your Life.
I have always believed in being authentic, free, a free spirit, and living and walking in my authenticity and truth even as a little and young child. Sometimes being your authentic genuine pure self comes with a lot of backlash from other human beings who feel threatened by your confident, energetic, and genuine demeanor because they have not yet mastered how to be balance the demands of pretending to be someone they are not and have never wished to be, but got pulled into it for whatever reason, but in all honesty that is not and should not be made to be my or your issue or problem should it Fenghuiers ? Here I am going to give My Fengshuiers a few quick pointers and steps on how to fengshui your life; I usually do this beginning at the end of each year so that my New Year is started of anew, bright, clean, fresh, and positive and free of baggage, clutter, distraction, and heaviness.
One of the Fengshui mottos and tips that I live and swear by is cleaning and organizing and fengshuing my area and living space. It does not matter if you live in a 500 square feet apartment/tiny home, studio, house, or R.V.; Fengshuiers these tips are good for all living accommodations and living situations, and living situation-ships. Lol .First I take assessment of the clothes and shoes that I have in my closet, dressers, and storage area and decide if anything needs to be donated, given or thrown away. Growing up it was always more than enough of everything in my household and my Grandma and her group of close friends were always buying and giving each other things whether they needed it or not so at a young age I became what is now called a minimalist and I only buy or take things from other people in my circle that I have a need for because I have always despised and hated excess and I have a rule that if I buy anything clothing wise that I can at least make 3-5 outfits out of it.
After I have cleaned. organized, and fengshuid my closet and wardrobe it is now time to assess and look at where I lay my head; Do I need a new blinds, new curtains, a new mattress and or new pillows ? Does my room need to brightened up or toned down? I usually decorate my bedroom based on my mood and personality which has always been bright, energetic, and fun so I tend to go on what I am feeling in the mood and moment and build around that. If you are on a budget like most of us are Fengshuiers and still would like to change things up a bit; check out please Goodwill and thrift stores, estate, garage and yard sales where sometimes you can find different and unique pieces that are no longer of use to the owner donating or selling the items. Changing your bedding, blanket, comforter, duvet, pillows and pillow cases, and sheets is a quick way to change the energy and feel of your room without having to break the bank; Also if you want you can also fengshui and make changes to your bathroom and other common areas of your home; The sky is the limit so let your creative juices, personality, and positive energy take over.
One of the last and most important steps I am going to give you Fengshuiers is to assess and look at the human beings in your circle; this includes your closest associates and friends, co-workers, family members, and romantic interest and partners and get rid of anyone who has or is a negative influence in your life or toxic. Sometimes as human beings it is in our nature to want to fix and try to hold onto people and relationships that are no longer suited for us. I know that it is hard to let go of someone who has been a main fixture in your life because by nature although the relationship dynamic may be hurting us it is also comforting to have someone and something that is familiar. I personally like to look at how has and is this human being bringing me down, encouraging me and lifting me up, or has this individual become a roadblock and heavy weight in my life.
Throughout my life dealing with anyone because I am guarded and so protective of myself due to my experiences and upbringing I had to learn how do I find balance and engage with certain people that I want in my life, but may not necessarily be very good and healthy for it? I had to learn to put certain human beings and people in compartments of my life or decide to walk away forever. There are some human beings who will hurt you over and over until you are forced to cut all ties with them and there are some human beings who will encourage and support you just as much as you do them. When dealing with familiar and work related relationships I suggest doing the same. It is always a good thing to have boundaries in place and deal breakers that if not upheld you don’t feel guilty about cutting ties with the person who does not respect your boundaries and or respect you. If you are constantly dealing with catty and narcissitic, gaslighting, petty, and sabotaging behavior in individuals that you are employed with and you are not looking to change your place of employment anytime soon you should start limiting as much personal time you spend with that person and unless it pertains to the job and your job duties; limit your personal time with and stop discussing your personal life with theses energy vampire and leach like individuals and stop accepting request to go out and hang after or before work. Also don’t let anyone dump and project on you even if it is your Boss.
When it comes to biological family, best and close friends, and a romantic partner sometimes it is even harder to cut ties with someone you have such close and familiar ties and such a strong bond with, but if the bond and connection is bringing you down it is best to see if it can be fixed and repaired, but if not it is time to let go. I suggest if you are feeling a certain kind of way about anything with the person your are bonded and connected deeply with it is time to communicate in a healthy manner what you are and have been feeling and what can be done if anything to repair the relationship and if the other party involved is willing to fix and repair any damage that has been done then give them give them and yourself a time limit and the space to notice a change and difference. If you are content and satisfied with how things are going after bringing the behavior, issues, and problems to light then continue with the relationship. If not then it is best to move on. If you are not completely 100% comfortable with being done with this relationship then you can always suggest going to counseling or just limiting your time with the person who is not meeting and respecting your needs to be in plutonic and romantic relationship with you. If you are considering ending a romantic relationship where there are children involved it is best to discuss how co-parenting will work that is geared to the best interest of the children while you all dissolve your relationship. Letting go and saying good bye is never easy no matter how many times you do it, but sometimes you have to put your best interest and needs ahead of everyone else and their emotions, feelings, and needs especially when you are not getting what you need to be in and create a happy and stable relation and partnership.;Goodbyes also don’t mean goodbye forever if later on down the line behavior and behavior patterns change and the person in the relationship with you has recognized the error of their ways.
Sometimes the other human being or human beings in your bed, associate and friends, and family circle are not the one’s who has or have changed but it is you and you may now feel that you have outgrown the environment and relationship(‘s) with those who you are and have been the closest to and that is alright and okay too. As Human Beings we are supposed to change and grow and change and growth does not always come with a set date and or time, but as long as each of us continue to be boundary and respecting of each other, ourselves, and our different and unique growth, needs and wants, and space(‘s) everything will work itself out. Fengshuiers never be guilt tripped and or feel guilty about doing what is best for you and your course of life because you never want to look back and regret spending and wasting energy and time on commitments, environments and spaces, and people that kept you feeling held complacent, hostage, stagnant, and or unfulfilled. # Regret is Exhausting.
Now it is time to Fengshui yourself with a whole new look and vibe. Is it a new car you have been wanting to buy or maybe you have been wanting to start putting a little more care and focus on how you dress and look, but most importantly feel, or is it a new hair color and hair do/style you have been wanting to try?; If so now is the time to get up and try those things and even if you don’t like it or it isn’t for you and you don’t choose to stick with it; how will you ever know if you don’t at least try it?
After this is all done Fengshuiers treat yourself to a nice bath and soak with your favorite bath oils, body washes, scents, and soaps and slip into your favorite lingerie and nightgown or pajamas and relax and rest easy knowing that you are on your way to having the life and space that you always have dreamed of full of peace and zen.
Fengshuiers I hope that you have enjoyed my mantra, mottos, and tips of how to quickly fengshui your life in a few easy steps; What changes and fengshuing in your life have you done currently or in the past that had a good or positive outcome for you? Comment below and please let me know what are your thoughts on this post because as always your feedback is greatly appreciated. Muah.- Amanda.